Sunday, November 8, 2009

I Miss Him

I don't know why I run away. I go days without speaking to him. 

I'm conflicted.  I think I shouldn't be dating a man with a minor child.  I think his kids should be up and out before he get's involved with me. 

I think of them before I think of myself.

Then I look at a picture of him.

Heart melts.


Vodka Mom said...

don't be afraid of what you feel.

you think too much.


Menopausal New Mom said...

I hear you on the kids at home. My hubby and I waited until his children were in university before we moved in together and even then, it was not easy.

Hope his kids aren't as selfish a cruel as my hubby's were!

Anita said...

Being a step-mother is one of the hardest things you will ever do, no matter what age the kids are when you are in their father's life full time. One day soon I am going to write a blog about my experiences as one and with one. In the meantime I can tell you that waiting won't necessarily make it better for them or for you. In some ways, the younger they are as they get to know you, the better, because your time with them is for longer periods and you have an opportunity to get to know each other and make an impact. Adult children can make it very hard on you because they are less open to change, and they may resent you for changing both their father's life and their dynamic with them. How does he feel about you being in their lives?

Briana said...

Silly Charmaine, remember Erin married Michael when he had minor children and look how well that turned out:)

Charmaine said...


Bla bla.

Vodka Mom - I do think too much. Someone has to think around here. (In my life.)

Menopausal New Mom - I think your decision was wise. I'm sorry the kids were cruel to you. I think all children of divorce are wounded. We can't get mad at them. The divorce changed their lives forever.

Anita- I think the relationship is off. I can't tell.

*Juliette* said...

Awww. I loved how you described the man inside when I made a snarky comment about his hair. It sounded like true love. But I have also balked when I found a man who was good in every way except for young children at home. My situation is different from yours though, because I just recently had the last of my kids move away and I'm in the empty nest.
Good luck with this. I hope you give him one more chance.

Anonymous said...

I didn't want to date or get serious with a man that had young children. My youngest is 15. My older two are married. Didn't want to raise another woman's children. My hubby has 3 children. His youngest is 14. They live with their mom in another state. I'm glad. Is that wrong to feel that way?