Thursday, May 7, 2009

His Side of the Story

There are two (2) sides to every story.

This is The King's version and why he left me at the restaurant:

When he went to the bathroom a couple of young guys sat at our table. When The King returned they did not leave. They were flirting with me.

I insisted on talking to the lads for a long while. The King was ready to leave. He walked over to the fire pit and waited for me to come to him, hence, giving me an "out" (a way to get away from the lads). I didn't take it. I stayed.

He tried again and moved over to a couch hoping I would come over to him. I didn't.

He says I made an intentional decision. I selected them over him. (He had bought me dinner and more then several Cakebread Chardonnays which adds up. He didn't say that. I'm saying that.)

The King was ready to go. He grabbed my purse and got the car.

He says he swung the car around to the curb. He said I demanded he get out and open my door. (I don't remember that but it could have happened. I mean, I might say that.)

After swinging around three times I refused to get in the car. He said he gave me back my purse. By that point I was standing with the young guys. He was fed up and left.

He said I could have called a cab. (I don't think I had my purse.) But that's what you get when your out all night drinking like a fish.

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Hedgie said...

Get thee to a nunnery.

Comedy Goddess said...

Guys are so dramatic. I am sure you were not avoiding him at all.

LyN said...

sounds to me like he has had a foul night with you. making it sound and look like you're the one who had fucked it up. :) oh well.

yea, @Comedy Goddess, guys ARE and CAN be sooo dramatic at times. i totally agree with you. :)

smellyshelley said...

Oooh, Cakebread...yumm. I actually am sort of related to the Cakebread's in a very distant way. My sisters and I like to visit the winery a pull the relation card.

LL said...

Sounds like a reasonable story...

Wha? Why are you all looking at me like that?

Did it just get cold in here?


namaste said...

your a good egg for providing such dutiful, balanced reporting. i doubt i would be so brave.


JIMSIGHT said...

VERDICT- Not guilty by reason if insanity (both parties)

A verse for you..

They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another's throats.

Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don't have any kids yourself.

--Philip Larkin

Tammy said...

I'm not buying it. He picked you up, he should have taken you home, drunk or not.

What's with leaving the table and expecting you to come hither? And, if he knew that you were clearly drunk, he absolutely should have trotted over and opened your door for you, if he really cared about you. He could have given you a hard time about it after you were safely home and sober.

Charmaine said...

Hedgie - The nunnery wouldn't take me. I did go to one in Ireland to visit some relation. The Nun gave me a drink of water in a thin little glass. I took a bite, accidentally, out OF the glass. I'm sure they thought it was the mark of Satan.

Comedy - Yea, men are like girls these dates.

LyN - Yea, he pretty much blamed it on me.

Smelly - Now I like you even MORE.

LL - ha ha

namaste - Yea, I guess with all my faults I am at least brave.

Jim - You wouldn't have left a woman at a restaurant. That I KNOW.

Tammy - You are totally right. How hard would it have been to open the door. Truly, the man did not give a darn about me. Basically he called me the next day to say so adding insult to injury.

Hedgie said...

sighYou're not supposed to scare the nuns. Did you chase them up into trees the way you did the fruiterer?

Loving Annie said...

You get points for being honest instead of just defensive or being in denial, Charmaine.

Taking responsibility for your actions is a big deal.

Now comes the step where you decide if you want to continue repeating them...

What patterns do you see that you do that have hindered you ?

What would you dating life be like without alcohol ?

Change isn't easy, and being aware of something that needs changing is the first step towards being willing to do so.

BlueEyedWonder said...

He still had no right to just leave you there like that..for sure.

He should have just taken you home. Then hashed it all out the next day..

Men are such idiots!!!

JIMSIGHT said...

geez, its become a man (and i use the term very loosly because obviously everyone else is) bashing blog. ahahahaha.. a woman scorned dear lord... are we close to 50 or 15?

Char, you are 100% correct.. goes without saying.

Michelle said...


Don said...

Ok, so what do you think? How much responsibility do you have? No one died and made me your morality judge!

Once, many years ago, I acted rather badly when my wife was having what I thought was too much fun with another man. But that's within the marriage vow. You aren't there; you get to flirt a bit. But Produce Boy DID take you out and should have seen you home. Leaving you on the street just isn't done - even if you were an asshole. (Yes, it IS possible!)

So you need to honestly assess your behavior (sounds like you are doing that) and decide whether or not you the problem. And you also need to think about whether or not you want to go farther with this guy. He may not the the lowest of the low but leaving you isn't something I would do either.

Good luck! said...

This is why I don't drink. It messes up your judgement and I hate feeling like crap the next day.


Eat Well. Live Well.

SweetPeaSurry said...

I don't think I buy that excuse, he should have stated OUTRIGHT ... it's time to go ... and grabbed YOU, not your pocketbook. Lame excuse number 3,435,675,478,102. Thanks ... I've been keeping track of these things!