Ah...you know me. I've dated half the State of California.
I consider myself an expert. (Tongue in cheek.)
Jenny Sanford was on the air speaking about her husband Mark Sanford (he's the guy who cheated on her with a woman from Argentina.)
After the story broke (he was with his mistress in Buenos Aires) which some reports say was paid for by the State of South Carolina, he confessed in a news conference.
Then he called his wife, his political advisor. He did not apologize, rather asked, "How'd I do?"
He wanted her feedback on his public apology.
She did NOT stand by her man.
She filed for divorce...you know the story.
What I found interesting, at the end of the interview, is that she remarked they were being cordial and as compatible as ever for the sake of their children. One of her four boys just had a birthday...
Being cordial and compatible for the sake of kids. Maybe children need to know when daddy is a lech. Maybe a man who is a liar does not deserve compatibility? I don't know.
I know it's important not to shame a parent in front of kids. But if we ignore bad behavior, gloss over it in front of our children...don't we somehow encourage more of the same?
Are men inherently bad? My answer is no. Not even close. Most men, like women, are pretty decent.
I was talking to my brother-in-law last night. (I'm broke, out of money and out of time.) He said, "Just tell me when I need to pick you up. I'll build a bedroom for you in the basement. Just say when."
When you become angry over bad men you're called "bitter". In my opinion, it's the end result of being cordial in the face of bad behavior. Your tolerance gets turned back on you and, as a woman, you are asked..."why aren't you being more cordial?" The wives of many politicans stand and smile sweetly.
It delivers the wrong message.
They must want something. And whatever it is, their silence is the price they pay. (Hello wife of John Edwards.) She defended him in the face of a love child...until he punched her in the ribs...milimeters from the location of her breast cancer. Finally, she speaks.
Jenny Sanford is not silent with the media...just in front of her kids so Daddy is not disgraced there.
Maybe he needs to be.